The back handed compliment is worse than no compliment. I had a guy friend in high school that couldn't seem to get his foot out of his mouth. He would say things like, "You look really good...TODAY." I'm not sure if he really realized he was insulting you at the same time as giving the compliment till it was too late. He always fumbled a little and tried to clarify what he meant. I tried not to take offense because I really chose to believe that he didn't mean it.
The other week I invited a mom to get to the park with the kids. We were suppose to have a play date but the host canceled due to illness. When I invited her, she asked who else was going. When I told her it was just us, she said that her youngest would be napping. So why did you ask who else was going? Would she have said yes if someone else was going?
So what does the back handed compliment have to do with the park play date situation? I hate feeling paranoid. It feels like high school where I was always second guessing myself. Does he/she really like me? I wish I could just let the little comments go. I wish I could just believe my friend's daughter was napping and it just wasn't that I wasn't good enough to make the trip.
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