I feel like I have no time to do things for myself lately. I guess it is just part of being a parent that you give up doing things for yourself. I can't count the times that I get everyone ready to go somewhere (which means putting on coats, hats, mittens and packing sippy cups and snacks, etc.) and forget to get myself those same essential items. There just doesn't seem to be enough time for me time. I wonder when people find time to go running when they have kids, jobs, and husbands. Maybe like my ob/gyn they work out at 10 pm or 5 am.
I long for the leisurely workout. I remember before I had kids, I would go for a run or the gym right after work. I didn't worry if I was gone more than 1 hour. Now I feel guilty if I'm gone too long and I only go once a week.
Now here the newest squabble I'm having with my husband, he gets mad if I go to the gym on the mornings that are mine to sleep in. I get up with the kids 5 days out of 7. On those two days I get to sleep in but I feel like my time is better spent at the gym. Dave gets angry because he thinks that there are other times that I should be working out. I work out at home most days but I really look forward to the days I get to the use the weight machines and high quality cardio fitness machines. I can go to the gym one day on the weekend during the day but during the week I can't go unless I wait till the kids are in bed. (And that one weekend workout is continginent on us not having plans.) Dave feels it is more important for me or him to sleep than for me to go to the gym. To be fair to Dave, he does suffer from insomnia from time to time. I wouldn't mind switching our days to sleep in if he has had a rough night either. I just feel that I should get to use my time how I want to. I love working out. I feel better when I do. I'm a better mom when I do.
Ok so this is a bit rambling. What do you think is a fair solution? Should I give up my gym mornings and start going at night when I barely have energy? Am I being unfair to Dave? If you think I'm wrong let me know. I'm a big girl I can take it.
6 comments:
If you don't feel tired if you miss those sleep-in mornings and work out instead, that's what you should do. Doesn't research show that working out right before bedtime interferes with sleep? You know your needs, so you should be able to decide when you get up and when you sleep!
Those mornings should be for you do to what you want...if you're tired sleep in but if you want to get up and do your own thing that's what you should do! I'm with you. :)
It's funny how men think that they are the ones that can organize our schedules, but if we ask them to do one thing it's hissy-fit-haven. Just do what you are going to do... your time is your time. Personally I would go get my nails or hair done, but that's because I am never one for working out.
Yup...if you would rather work out than sleep do that!
Every once in a while Bill and I get into an argument about how I complain about my body but don't work out. He wants me to join a gym...but he doesn't seem to realize that I already push the limits of daycare hours, have a 45 minute drive home, and the nearest gym to home is 1/2 an hour away. If I went to the gym, when would I get to play with Eva? Or eat?
Sounds a bit like he's jealous of your ability to sleep. And he wants you to sleep when he can't. If you're complaining that you're tired, though, I could see why he wants you to sleep in. If you're not tired, then you should spend the time however you want!
Tell Dave to mind his own business. If you want to work out on those days, it's your choice.
BTW, how old are your kids? It does get easier when they get a little older.
Also, thanks for sharing your Wednesday Whine with me.
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